There have been countless times where I have said ‘yes’ to something that I just did not want to do. I gave in everything, lost the energy to justify why I did not want to go to that place and do something with them. Also added that I hated disappointing someone. I was a people-pleaser. And in some cases, I am still a people-pleaser, but now I am setting my boundaries and refusing requests that have no use to me and will simply waste my time! It is a process, and like all other good things in the world, it takes time.
Saying ‘no’ is indeed very hard. We feel a wave of guilt and selfishness. Every time you get the feeling of giving in and saying ‘yes to something you do not want to do. Remind yourselves that saying ‘no’ means:
– Saving Your Precious Time
– Gettin Rid Of Toxic People Who Take Advantage Of You
– You Do Not Waste Your Energy On Other Things, And Use It For Things That Matter To You
– Helps You Focus On Your Own Goals, And Not Other’s Goals
– Helps Reduce Your Stress
– Helps You Gain Control Over Your Life
To be happy is to wisely use the power of saying ‘no’ to some people. Don’t be afraid to disappoint people who only conveniently remember you when they want something from youDodinsky
Here are some tips to start saying ‘no’ and setting up those boundaries!
1. Your Own Time Is Very Valuable
When you are aware of your own work, your calendar, and your commitments, you will realize that you cannot give your time to someone else, when you have a lot on your plate.
2. Stop Saying Sorry
There is absolutely no reason for you to be apologizing for not giving your time to them. Again, it is your time. You are the judge on whether or not you want to spend your valuable time with them. Saying sorry might seem polite to you, but it just hands over your control on your time onto them! You have to be firm when you say no!
3. Set Your Priorities Right
You should know what are your priorities and accordingly say no to things that are not on the top of your list, and come in the way. No one can tell you what priority of yours is more important, it is all up to you!
4. Saying ‘No’ Does Not Make You A Bad Person
Finally the most important, saying ‘no’ does not make you a bad person! It is very crucial for you to remember this. In the beginning when you decline someone’s request, yes you will feel guilty! But remember you said no for a good legitimate reason. You are the one who has control over your life, so it is up to you!
Slowly start practicing saying ‘no’, and be confident when you say it! When you start setting those boundaries, it will become clear to others that you are not going to be easily swayed by them, and it will also help you get rid of toxic people who took advantage of the fact that you could not say ‘no’!
You have to learn to say no without feeling guilty. Setting boundaries is healthy. You need to learn to respect and take care of themselves.Unknown