Regrets: our worst enemy.
We all have them. I for one, have quite a few regrets. Not making plans with friends, not visiting the city enough and taking everything for granted, and not understanding the value of them!
Regrets happen in life all the time, some of them motivate us to make sure we never have to regret it again, and some of them leave us hopeless and miserable. Our reactions to regrets and how we manage them are very important, as it determines whether we will be held up by the regrets or whether we will accept them and move on!
Regret is the thing we should fear most. Failure is an answer. Rejection is an answer. Regret is an eternal question you will never have the answer to. “What if….” “If only….” “I wonder what would have…..”. You will never, never known, and it will haunt you for the rest of your days.Trevor Noah
Here are a few tips on dealing with regrets:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
Accept what you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. This will help you understand and tolerate your feelings!
2. Avoid Thinking About It
Stop thinking about your regrets over and over again! Getting stuck in the rabbit hole of regrets will only drag you further down! So whenever you start thinking about it, stop yourself and just think about moving forward.
3. Just Let Yourself Heal
You need to breathe and heal from the past events that have left you in this state. Human beings are not built to get over these situations overnight. Rushing over it will leave you even more puzzled and confused!
4. Learn From It
Take this event as a learning instance, and create a new set of goals that are realistic and positive. Become aware of how you can avoid situations where you are disappointed or hurt again!
5. Counseling Will Help
If you find yourself in a state, where you do not know what to do, consider counseling. Therapists are always ready to help you get out of the self-harming mindset!